Turn around and walk the other way
It is said that someone only treats you in a certain manner you allow them too.
Well …. in a way I agree but in another I don’t. What if you are in a relationship and no matter what you do or say, that person still treats you as (s)he pleases. What if your words and concerns are thrown back at you as though you are in a empty room. Talking to yourself.
There is no way to get that person to treat you in any other manner, except to turn around and walk away. What if you can’t walk away though.
I suppose that does mean that you are being treated like that cause you allow him / her to…
January 20, 2008 at 1:48 am
Sorry to hear that you are treated like that. No one deserves that. I left a message on Wenchy’s blog for you.
January 20, 2008 at 4:20 am
Wow, that is a good question. My mom always taught me to kill them with kindness. And it works – for the most part, but you raise an interesting point here.
January 20, 2008 at 5:31 am
That doesn’t sound good- I hope everything’s ok! I’m sending lots of hugs and happy thoughts!
January 20, 2008 at 11:31 am
Hmm. I hear you. Usually when your comments and questions and concerns are thrown back at you, it’s because the other person is too a)stubborn, b)self-absorbed c)usually male and quite frankly apparently too stupid to realise that *some* things need to change. I know exactly how you feel. So many times I have wondered, “what if I left?” and the answer is always “well it’s not an option”. So, we go on, for our kids sake, and try to find the silver linings
January 20, 2008 at 3:00 pm
(((HUGS))) Melany, sounds like you’re having a tough time.
And no, it’s not always because you let that person treat you like that.
January 20, 2008 at 5:53 pm
Melany,
Hmmm, that is not right. . .no one deserves to be treated badly or in any way other than nice, but it happens. Are you okay?
January 20, 2008 at 9:06 pm
Noid and I both agree that it is just NOT FUCKING PROPER.
January 21, 2008 at 9:37 am
Hi Mel. I can identify with you one humdred percent. I manage to deal with it by consoling myself that I at least stood up for me. And that its important. {{{{Lots of hugs}}}}
January 21, 2008 at 10:33 am
your post could mean many things… if it’s someone you love then you should hang in there and not give up…!
January 21, 2008 at 10:41 am
Not being able to walk away the hardest part but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you have allowed him/her to treat you that way. Maybe (s)he was not brought up to know how or never learnt how to deal with other people and their feelings!!!
January 21, 2008 at 12:23 pm
Sorry Mel.
I know how hard that can be.
I alternate between being very open about what I do/don’t like and even saying ‘don’t treat me like that’ and then I also realised years ago that sometimes instead of longing for someone to treat you the way you want to be treated, just start reacting the way you would if they WERE treating you in that way, and then they do start treating you the way you wanted. Harder to do, but gets a much better results.
I KNOW how hard it can be.
*HUGS*
January 21, 2008 at 2:28 pm
this is really NOT ok. What’s going on babe?
January 21, 2008 at 2:34 pm
Mel.
I just hate it to know that things are not looking up for you guys. It is so important to be happy with the peole around you. If those close to you can’t make you happy, what then? You will never bring bad things onto yourself, you know that your children will feel your pain.
I hope that you can talk some sense into this person, to just try and understand and listen to your feelings.
Will be praying for you.
Lovies
January 22, 2008 at 6:30 pm
aw mel… you sound like you could use a hug and a cup of coffee!
i wish i had some magic sitcom words for you, but apparently the writers are on strike or something…?