Disabled parking

A pet peeve of mine that got way worse once my SIL was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis, is abled people parking on disable parking spots.  Really.  Are you blind? …. well if you are blind you shouldn’t be driving.  Do you not understand the sign?  Then you shouldn’t be driving either.

I normally just swear complain by myself.  Yesterday though, just as I left the gym, a woman drove right up and parked in the disabled spot.  Right in front of the gym.

I first walked away but then turned around and decided that I can’t just let it go.  I walked up to her and very politely explained that it is a disabled spot and it’s for disabled people.  That my SIL has MS (sorry Maggs for using you there) and when people park in the disabled spots…right at the door…she has to park far away and by the time she gets to the pool, she is too exhausted to exercise.  She didn’t get defensive!  She said that she never thought of it that way huh? and that we must tell the management huh? but she will make sure not to stop there again.  I asked her to please talk to others about it too.  That it’s the only way we’ll get people to read the signs realize why we have the parking spaces.  BTW she didn’t move her car…small steps right?

Just as I turned to leave, someone else pulled into the other parking space.  The wife has a baby on her lap (another pet peeve).  I walk up to the husband and politely again asked him if he realized it’s a disabled parking spot.  He replies with - well we do have a baby huh? -   Same story.  Same explanation and it seems as though maybe he got it.

Really though…how do people motivate parking in disabled areas? 

 

Holiday entertainment

Today our school holidays officially started.  Quintus was getting his stuff ready for school today and I just let him bewhen he realized by himself that it’s holiday lol

I need ways to entertain the boys.  I’ve decided to only work half days as much as possible so that my boys won’t have to be with my mom all day long.  Now I also want to make sure they have fun. 

So… any ideas?

 

Snap and run

My husband is 38.  Yet he still follow orders from his parents like he is 8.

Remember when we were kids?  “Please go fetch us this”  “Take the dog out for a walk”  “Pick up your toys”.  Our parents ordered asked us to do many things.  As children we listened and did what was asked of us.  This is the way it works.

Then as we get older, grow up, become adults and get married, this changes.  We have our own lives.  Our own many orders that we need to follow from your wife due to our lives in general.  Our parents don’t expect us to follow orders anymore.  They will ask but not order.  The balance changes and this is a good thing.  We need to take care of our family’s needs.  Mostly we will do what our parents ask anyway but now we have to take into account our own family and our own needs as well. 

Or that is how I see it.

In Tommie’s situation, this hasn’t changed.  He is still 8.  They still order.  They snap their fingers and regardless of our needs, he will jump for them.  I know he means well.  I don’t doubt that.  However he is a grown man and choose to get married and have children.  Now we should be his priority.

Yesterday we had to rush home from the wedding.  I was feeling horrible.  I got the boys’ stomach virus and really needed his help.  I needed him home to help with our three boys.  I needed him home for some TLC for my own self.  However, he had told his parents he would take their caravan for them.  200 km from our home.  He had to sleep over there last night, leaving me alone with the boys all this time.  My father-in-law is coming through to town on Tuesday, he could pick up the caravan then.  Tommie could have taken the caravan today, when I probably would have felt better.

Again he chose to ignore my our needs. 

 

The mom that I am

Quintus was extremely excited when I picked him up from school yesterday.  I have mentioned before that their school has a wonderful motivation system.  This is not only for individual pupils but also the classes as a whole.  During the term Quintus’ class acquired the most points out of all the classes in the school and they got the day off today!  The last day of the school term.

Now Jay is only in Grade R and in all reality he could still be in pre-school.  However he is not and his classes are on the school premises.  Making him a part of the school.  I took him to school today.  Even though school got out at 10 am, he still went to school. 

I want my kids to learn that when you work for something, you reap the benefits.  So Jay went even though I could easily have kept him home.  You know what though?  He didn’t complain.  Not once.  Just shows that the times I have done this kind of things before, they have learned that you don’t get the benefits unless you work for it.

So I ended up being very proud of both boys.