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Self-image

I took these photos of Zander last week and looking at them now, it got me thinking.  I can’t remember back when I was born (unlike other people who apparently remember when they were still in utero?)  However, as a mother, I’m sure that babies are born with a healthy sense of self.  A healthy self-image.  Yes, they do need encouragement from us.  They do need us to tell them just how wonderful they are.  That is however just to confirm their instinct – that they are indeed the wonderful person they believe to be.  Just look at them when they look at themselves in the mirror. 

They completely adore themselves.  They don’t need us to tell them how wonderful they are.  They don’t depend on it.  They just look at us to re-affirm this.

As we grow older though, we get hurt.  We are told we aren’t good enough.  Slowly breaking down that self-image we used to have.  Breaking down our believe in ourselves.  We look at ourselves in the mirror and we are way more judgemental.  We just don’t look at ourselves and feel content with what we see.  Physically and emotionally.  We don’t look at the mirror through our own eyes anymore.  We look through the eyes of the world. 

We see the flaws that they see.  More and more we lose that sense of self, needing more and more the confirmation from them.  Wanting and waiting for the world to tell us we are okay.  We are accepted.  We are beautiful inside and out.

This is what I want to do.  Start looking at myself through my own eyes.  Stop trying to live up to what is expected and just being me.  The person that I am meant to be.  The person that I can accept.

Oscar Wilde said: “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”

11 responses

  1. Very true.

    September 28, 2006 at 5:16 pm

  2. Wow stunning post Mel. Your photography is excellent, and that quote is brilliant.

    What you have said here is so true, and I think many of us have come to believe that we are not enough and not good enough.

    It’s time we learn to accept oursleves as who we are and allow ourselves to be the best ‘me’ we can be.

    September 28, 2006 at 9:13 pm

  3. Great photos and reflection in this post!

    September 29, 2006 at 12:02 am

  4. Those pictures look professional. They are amazing!! I’d frame those:)

    September 29, 2006 at 5:24 am

  5. Trey also LOVES looking at the “baba” in the mirror. Occassionally the baba in the gets a smack from him. LOL.

    September 29, 2006 at 6:06 am

  6. Cheryl

    Amazing post Mel.

    September 29, 2006 at 8:26 am

  7. Amy

    awww what a little sweetie! You’re right about babies though.

    September 29, 2006 at 10:16 am

  8. Amazing post! Sure makes one think 🙂 I love the photos, and the quote at the end.

    Thanks for that, it was what I needed today.

    September 30, 2006 at 5:31 am

  9. I brought a mirror (a baby one) for his cot a while ago he loves admiring himself too
    Zander is so adorable

    September 30, 2006 at 10:11 am

  10. aalize

    I love that first photo! Good quote too! I think it is a life long (at least for me) journey to accepting and loving the ‘self’. Hard work but always so dang rewarding – a larger than life experience when you have those moments of compasionately validating yourself. Of course this always leads me to a feeling of just loving EVERYONE and grinning like a silly school girl – this is usually when my husband asks me if I’ve just had a coffee or have I just read a romance novel? 🙂 Hmph!

    October 1, 2006 at 5:42 pm

  11. Those are sweet words, Melany.
    My little boy also loves to see himself in the mirror. When he does that, he smiles and dances a little :).

    Your little guy looks beautiful in both of the photos!

    Love,
    Adwina

    October 3, 2006 at 5:59 am

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