Super Mom

Just too long

This week has been too long.  Just too long.  I haven’t looked forward to a weekend this much in a long long time.  To add to that, I couldn’t get into wordpress today.  Really people!!!  I need my blog.  Stress relieve and all of that.

Moving right along, please do proceed with caution.  Age restriction 13 –  Strong language and violence.  Specifically if you are a smoker, I’d advice you to brace yourself or hit the X in the top right corner.

My mom’s sister (who is also my godmother) is in hospital.  She has been fighting cancer for as long as I can remember.  Every time beating the odds.  Pulling herself from the depths of illness.  Where even the doctors have given up.  One of the times she had been given a 30 % chance to live for a maximum of 5 years.  That was 11 years ago.  Granted she has not been in the best of health but she wants to live.  She has been giving it her all to live.

I do know that cancer can hit anyone.  I’m completely aware of it.  However I’m pretty confident that her cancer is caused by smoking.  She has never smoked but she has been a passive smoker for years and years. 

The f-king idiot that she is married to Her husband smokes.  For years and years he smoked in the house.  In their bedroom.  Not a pack-a-day kind either.  Chain smoker.  Camel cigarettes smoker.  Even after she has been diagnosed with lung cancer, he didn’t stop.  HE DIDN’T STOP!  Bloody hell. 

Please.  Do not for one second tell me that you have been a smoker for years and so has your mother and f-king grandmother and all of you have lived to a zillion years old.  Congratulations you fuckwit.  I wonder how many people you have killed with your smoke.  How many people are suffering from asthma because of your smoke.

I don’t get how anyone can smoke.  How can you put your own body through that and then those around you?  How selfish can you be?

Worst of all is the fact that my husband smokes!!!!!!!!!!  (to his credit though, he wouldn’t dare he doesn’t smoke anywhere near me, our children, not in the house, not in our car, not in a restaurant – you get the message)

My aunt is back in hospital now.  She is seriously very sick.  We don’t know if she will pull through this time.  She is getting her fourth pint of blood.  She had scans today and she has cancer in her lungs again – as well as her bladder.  I’m emotional and upset.  I am crying silent and some not-so-silent tears.  For her.  My mom.  For all of us.

Don’t tell me smoking doesn’t kill.  Just don’t.

12 responses

  1. Hi Supermom. You might have seen me comment on Broom Girl’s blog, I am a friend of hers and read your blog occasional – hope you don’t mind. I just thought I would comment today, as your blog got right to my heart. I TOTALLY agree with you! My mom is going through cancer for the third time back in SA (I am in London). She had breast cancer in 2002, her right breast removed and her lymphglands out of her arm, with chemo and radio. Then in 2005 had lung cancer and a quarter of her lung taken out and now has 4 of her lymphnodes in her neck/throat affected and going through chemo again which is making her so ill and still has radio to follow. I also work for the charity, Cancer Research UK and see all the sad cases, brave people and frightening statistics. Sorry I’m going off on one – just wanted to say I understand what you are going through and feeling and have you and your aunt and mom and family in my thoughts and prayers. We have FINALLY got the smoking ban in public places passed here in the UK – will come out next year. Its a start!
    Well, have a good weekend.

    November 17, 2006 at 9:09 pm

  2. Amy

    yep, couldn’t agree with you more, my grandmother died of cancer (non-smoking related) but my sister smokes and has been for year – I worry about her health too.

    November 17, 2006 at 10:23 pm

  3. So sorry to hear this. You are all in my thoughts.

    November 17, 2006 at 10:49 pm

  4. Hi Mel, what hospital is she in? The last I spoke to Leeanne was two weeks ago and she said her mom was not well but she didn’t say it was so serious! Please send me a mail or a sms to let me know what hospital. Thanks.

    Great post and you have every right to be so angry, I agree with the fucking idiot part – whole heartedly, cause he still doesn’t give a damn!

    November 17, 2006 at 11:16 pm

  5. I’m so very sorry to hear about your aunt, my prayers are with you, and her, during this difficult time.

    I completely understand your frustration. My dad used to be a smoker, and my ex-step-mom smokes. I grew up in a household with 2 smokers and I hated it. I hated how it made everything I wore smell like smoke. I hated breathing it in. My father, thankfully, quit cold turkey a few months after Kayla was born.

    Joe’s step-father smokes though. He’s tried again and again to quit but keeps going back. Thank goodness he’s like your husband in that he doesn’t smoke in the house, but still, when he comes in it follows him. I wish he would find the will to quit.

    Again, saying prayers for your family.

    November 18, 2006 at 12:31 am

  6. jen

    “This week has been too long” Ive felt like that too this week.

    My prayers are with your aunty. Thats sad that shes been a passive smoker its not her fault but shes the one paying for it. Muzz has a cousin whose hubby gives her a hard time and its sad shes in a wheelchair and is diabled from an accident. And all he does is get drunk and gives her a hard time. Some men!!!

    Sweetheart my prayers are with you too Big Hug

    November 18, 2006 at 3:24 am

  7. Praying for your aunt.

    November 18, 2006 at 3:46 am

  8. Wenchy

    I am sorry to hear about your tannie. Mel… this week concluded a third week of CRAP… you, me and darling girl with Broom will get through anything… so if next week is like this one, I may need you to come rescue me!

    Ek is onsaglik lief vir jou.

    November 18, 2006 at 7:17 am

  9. I agree with you – this week has been way too long.
    I also agree about needing the blog to be able to alleviate the stress.
    I also like to have a bath when I’m stressed but we don’t have one in our home.
    Praying for your aunt.

    November 18, 2006 at 1:51 pm

  10. I agree, I hate smoking. My Grandfather died from smoking (young before parents got married) so had “smoking bad” drummed into me from a young age. My other granddad fortunately stopped his occassional smoking after my Mum brought his cigerette to him in her mouth! It always horrifies me to see parents smoking over their children, esp when in push chairs and it’s all floating towards them!

    Glad your husband is only harming his own lungs. I used to hate going to work suffering secondhand smoke. My husband is not allowed to smoke, it was made clear to him from the beginning that if he wants to kiss me he’s not to smoke – was only an occasional social thing, if that.

    November 18, 2006 at 7:24 pm

  11. you and your family are in my prayers mel

    November 19, 2006 at 5:45 pm

  12. This pisses me off too: mothers smoking while driving car with kids sitting behind her!
    Smokers are selfish people, I just don’t understand why some wives tolerate husbands smoking inside the house, inside the bedroom! or even why they married the selfish smoker in the first place!
    Glad to know Tommie smokes outside the house and not around you or with the kids.

    November 20, 2006 at 7:18 am

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