Super Mom

Uncomfortable

Tommie and I have been going through some tough times lately. No shit Sherlock.  We have mostly sorted things out now and we are testing the waters to make sure everything is okay.

Last night though he asked if he could read my blog.  Goeie genade!  I am always honest on my blog.  Even when I know someone would read what I wrote – like my folks reading what I wrote yesterday.  That’s just me.

It felt so uncomfortable with him sitting there in the living room, reading my blog.  All the things I have been complaining about.  Reading what I had written about his folks.

I thought he was going to be so upset however he was not.  He did look unhappy and then told me “All you wrote there is so true”.  He thanked me for letting him read.  For letting him into my world – my thoughts – so that he can see how these things have effected me.

So it was a good thing…uncomfortable… but good.  Here’s to hoping that we can now start over – get all this unhappiness behind us.

14 responses

  1. I have to give you alot of credit. Not only are you able to be so honest in your blog but also have the courage to allow your husband to read it. But also I have to say kudos to Tommie for at least asking. He must have known that he would be reading some honesty within the blog. It sounds like you are both on your way to a happier place. Good luck to all of you.

    June 27, 2007 at 1:37 pm

  2. Cheryl

    I had a ‘cold sick’ moment there. I’m glad that Tommie asked and glad that he and you are OK.

    Good on both of you.

    June 27, 2007 at 2:19 pm

  3. That is wonderful that you guys can share. I have had “issues” with my in-laws throughout the years. Just things I wish I had vented out at my husband and never did… it’s wonderful that you were able to be open. Maybe I’ll take some of that gusto from here on out! After all, we’re visiting them this Friday through Tuesday!

    June 27, 2007 at 3:38 pm

  4. you know what Mel, that was perfect. You have been needing/wanting to be heard, to have one on one time with him, communicate, have him understand your hurts and frustrations…..well the Lord answered your prayers. This is what your marriage has needed…this is what YOU have NEEDED. Tommie needed to hear the truth, the raw truth. I know you love your husband and marriage too much to keep allowing a greater distance between you to exist. I only pray that as he read your true feelings that he also saw and felt your love for him and your kids and he steps it up a bit. This may be a good time to initiate a weekend away so that you can reconnect physically and also get his thoughts about what he read now that he has had a few days to digest things. I hope I haven’t been to bold. I just feel so hopeful for you guys that you can get on the same path together.

    June 27, 2007 at 3:53 pm

  5. Gen

    This is great news Mel – I am really happy for you and Tommie! W has been reading my blog from when I started, then again because of this I am rather selective about what I write!!!

    Take Care and here sending you some happy thoughts and lots of hugs!

    Gen

    June 27, 2007 at 4:17 pm

  6. I found the same thing happened with my wife. As a guy we are told to be strong. We have feelings too, who do we go to when we need to talk? I went to the web such as yourself. It gives us the ability to be honest, we’re not being judged. I took it upon myself to invite my wife to read the blog. I was in the office every fe wminutes waiting to be hammered by what she was reading. I, as you have found wasnt the case. It gave and continues to give insight into my thoughts to my wife and has now started to give insight to other men and women. Kudos for being strong and continue to write.

    June 27, 2007 at 4:19 pm

  7. I’m sure that must have been uncomfortable since he’s never read it before so you weren’t sure how he would take it. I’m glad to hear he took it well and it opened his eyes to what you were going through and feeling. I pray this will be a positive step in the right direction to get the marriage back on track!

    June 27, 2007 at 8:37 pm

  8. I think it was great he read it. Maybe him reading it and getting a glimpse into your heart he will understand more how you feel.

    I pray that you two work things out and can move forward in happiness. Blessings to you both:)

    June 28, 2007 at 12:40 am

  9. Amy

    That sounds like a good thing. My dh has asked to read my blog and I’ve said yes even though I’ve said things about him on there, not horrible things but it would be a load off my mind if he did read it.

    June 28, 2007 at 2:17 am

  10. This No shit Sherlock is one of Muzz’s favourite sayings

    in all seriousness Im praying for you both
    hugs

    June 28, 2007 at 3:09 am

  11. i sure think it’s great that he did have the chance to do so. you were (and are) being honest with whatever you did write. you are not writing stuffs for the sake of writing/entertaining… you are writing from your heart. and the good and the bad are here. he must see both sides of the coin including those that you said how good of a husband/father that he is and how oblivious he can be, at times.

    June 28, 2007 at 3:21 am

  12. Praying things improve between you two.

    June 28, 2007 at 5:55 am

  13. That was brave. I am glad he asked first.

    I know my dh reads my blog on occasion… we chat about stuff we have written sometimes, and sometimes when I want to tell him something about the kids, I just send him the URL. LOL!!

    I hope this helps you guys to share your thoughts and feelings and to find some good middle ground.

    June 28, 2007 at 9:29 am

  14. that is great! At least now he knows how ya feel and maybe it’ll help strengthen your relationship. My hubby reads mine from time to time, he likes to read it because he actually thinks it is funny. My son reads my entries as I write them, (when I let him) he says they don’t really sound like me but he loves the way I write.

    June 30, 2007 at 3:25 pm

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