Super Mom


That is the problem.  Women see sex as being a job.  I have decided that I should write a book on this subject.  How it’s men’s fault that they don’t get enough sex.

See when you are young and unmarried newly married and sans kids, sex is great.  You do it often and there is no such thing as the husband wanting sex more than the wife.  Soon after getting married though most couples decide to mess up this good thing and have children.  While having kids are awesome, wonderful and the best thing ever, it does interfere with sex.

All of a sudden the wife must get used to first being invaded by a little growing human, then she gives birth to said human and continue to nurse and raise the little person.  So where before both parties wanted to have sex as often as possible because both had the same amount of energy all of that changes once a baby is born.

Husband still does X and wants X amount of sex.  Wife now does X * Z and wants X/Z sex because that is all energy she has left.  I’m sure most people can make the sum.

So what happens.  Does the husband realize this.  NO.  Instead of waiting until the little one is just a tad older and more independent, they demand.  Instead of being considerate and understanding that they are a part of why the wife has less energy, they demand.

See (now this is me) if someone demands something from me, I will most probably not do it.  If I absolutely have to, you will know that I’m not happy doing it.  So during those 1/2 years the husband isn’t willing to just put his needs aside and demands he has gone and made something that is actually a wonderful thing, into a job for his wife.

It’s like – let’s say golf.  The husband loves playing golf.  He does it as often and as much as he can.  Then all of a sudden he gets a promotion.  He has to work Wednesdays and Saturdays.   His golfing partner though keeps on nagging and throwing a tantrum and wants him to play on the only day that he has off.  So every now and again he will go on the Sunday but he won’t enjoy it as he did when he had time and played often.

Good luck with that.

* This has nothing to do with my own life right now.  Just a conversation I had with someone.

3 responses

  1. Wenchy

    You already know my thoughts on this. I have never seen sex as work. Slutty woman I am en so. I like a bit of that.

    July 5, 2007 at 6:18 pm

  2. I heard a female psychologist(not mine) describe men’s sexual appetite. Imagine that you work at a bakery. All day long you smell the bread baking, you see many people buying and eating and enjoying their bread. But you are on a low-carb diet and can only have a little here and there. All day long men are bombarded with sexual images and we tend to put them off which has to be enormously frustrating. My husband and I came up with a schedule. It sounds unromantic but so what. It rejuvenated our marriage. We designated certain days when we would have sex. That way, I could try to rest up a little and anticipate like I used to way back when. Then I didn’t feel stalked or like an afterthought on his way to bed at night. I have opinions on this obviously. I could go on…

    July 9, 2007 at 7:34 am

  3. Jenny

    I have two children and have never really felt a loss in desire for sex. Certainly I have felt exhausted but it seems that sex releases so much tension and that I get a lot of satisfaction from the physical contact that I sleep much more soundly.

    October 1, 2007 at 6:41 am

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