I am very well aware that I’m going to be a mother-in-law. I will always be the mother-in-law. I have three boys. I’ll never be the ‘mom’. Thus I always try to look at my in-law situation through those eyes. I think about it every now and again and I hope that when I am the grandmother-in-law so to speak, that I will respect the wishes of my children. That I will respect the rules they have for their children.
History has proven that my MIL isn’t like that. In fact it feels as if she will go out of her way to do something against my wishes.
As in hold out a chicken bone for my 2 month old to suck on while I hold him over my shoulder and I have just explained that he is too little and has never had any food. Letting my kids travel without seat belts. Not seeing the danger of letting a 8 month old eat nuts. Showing my kids where they keep the guns. Letting the hold a huge, sharp sword that hangs on the wall and is easy for them to take off by themselves.
My in-laws will always go on about how they miss the boys, yet they never make an effort to see them. They will drive to their other grandson at least twice a month but never come see our boys. YET they complain about missing them so much.
Something that always closes up my chest is when they ask for the kids to sleep over at their home. They have recently moved to a farm and I know the boys will love the freedom. However, I know my in-laws have no regard for the children’s safety. They feel it is completely okay for the kids to have the whole farm to their disposal.
There’s SO many things to worry about. Farm dams – Jason can’t swim, Quintus doesn’t swim well. The kids are still small. What if they get hurt when they are far from the farm house. Will Jason even know how to get back to the home? Their older cousin hunts. I do not want my kids to hunt, especially at such a young age. My FIL is a diamond miner. There is HUGE machinery. Slime dams. The list is seriously endless.
I can ask them to not allow the kids out of their sight. However I know from history that they won’t respect my wishes. Tommie wants the boys to go. My in-laws think I’m the biggest bitch to walk the face of the earth. I don’t want my kids not to know their grandparents. Their other cousin will be there and they don’t get to see him often. It’s going to be a long long holiday and it will give the kids a change of scenery.
YET should I? Would you? Oh and clearly Zander won’t go.