I think I can honestly say that I don’t have a ‘favourite’ child (and feel free to tell me if you think I do as I will do my utmost to change that). I am very aware of the impact of that on siblings and how the ‘other’ children feel.
Ever since the day that Jason was born, I worked hard and reminded myself daily that I need to love my children equally. That I need to divide my attention equally. Although I have to respond to them differently. Children are in all reality not the same and Jason just doesn’t appreciate hours playing rugby as much as he would hours of painting or drawing or building something. Kinda like the 5 languages of love I suppose. Show the love differently.
The hardest thing though is standing back and watching someone else have a favourite of YOUR children. And not just having a favourite but actually having a least favourite and acting more on that.
You cannot force someone else to act differently. You can point it out and ask
and even give it a big of a random beg but you cannot force.
It is really sad. It hurts me as a mother. It hurts my child and he is still just too young to handle such behaviour. Kids of this age are still so innocent and trusting. They hurt so deeply when the are treated like this.