Super Mom

A whore in the bedroom

Isn’t that how the saying goes?

Men want the woman they marry to be a chef in the kitchen, a lady in the living room and a whore in the bedroom.

WTG on putting stress on a woman.  Throw in the perfect mom, good salary earner, being thin and we are headed straight to Prozac. 

It’s no wonder so many women feel as though they are just not coping.  Look at that.  When must we make time for ourselves?  When we go grocery shopping alone?  Gym to be thin for the husband and the rest of the judging world?   The 2.3 minutes we get to bath alone before someone forgets that closed doors are meant for privacy?

I wonder if men even realizes this?  I wonder if they know how much they expect of us?

26 responses

  1. Wenchy

    You know I can’t cook, I hardly go into the lounge but I like and enjoy my bedroom – and Dion in it. I will never be thin unless I get some serious illness and in the past Prozac made my insomnia worse…. my salary is okay I guess for what I do and since I have no qualification to speak off…. and I don’t think I will win any mom prizes.

    I wonder sometimes how much of this expectation of perfection is our own doing, what society has dictated to men to ‘demand’ and the percentage of woman who ever reach it? I think very few… if not nobody.

    We all just do the best we can. Sometimes we cook fabulously, we be very nice ladies generally and sometimes we even say fuck in the bedroom… but not all on one day!

    Love you dahhhhhhhhling.
    me

    May 20, 2008 at 12:10 pm

    • Laurie-Ann

      I agree with you! Women put way to much expectations on themselves and what they say men want. Men have a fantasy girl in their minds but in reality what makes them fall for a woman is how they make them feel within themselves. Confidence in a woman is sexier to them then a size 0 female.

      August 3, 2015 at 10:54 am

  2. I can answer that question for you!! NO WAY!!! They have NO IDEA how much pressure they put on us. Not that mine cares that I’m not skinny, but he does want me to cook and clean even though I work 40 hours a week and go to school (and raise his kids, and run errands, and do all of the grocery shopping, and laundry, and menu planning…). I’m sure you get the point. I do everything in this house and he sits back and wonders why I’m a raving lunatic that doesn’t have energy for sex more than once a week.

    May 20, 2008 at 1:41 pm

  3. I don’t know how you do it – you really are Supermom juggling everything – I really do take my hat off to you.

    May 20, 2008 at 2:02 pm

  4. Calling Him Out

    Yeah, what Jenn said above and add to it my history of sexual abuse from my dad…I’m happy not to be medicated yet!

    May 20, 2008 at 6:19 pm

  5. I packed out laughing when you mentioned the bathroom door. WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO GET A DECENT 30MIN CANDLELIT BUBBLE BATH THESE DAYS!! OY VEY!! I hear you! This morning I couldn’t even go to the loo alone before Bubby came in took two steps towards me, then backed out closing the door saying, “Hmmm…smelly” I could hear my husband laughing his ass off down the passage as he was getting dressed for work.

    May 20, 2008 at 9:47 pm

    • Laurie-Ann

      That’s hysterical!

      August 3, 2015 at 10:58 am

  6. my3boysandi

    “grocery shopping alone?” LOL thats me
    i lock the bathroom door LOL
    and no they probably dont

    May 21, 2008 at 1:31 am

  7. to be a whore in the bedroom is the easy part, its the chef and the lady that i struggle with :)

    May 21, 2008 at 11:16 am

  8. Rav

    Hey Grilfriends

    I have to get my share of this “Bitch about our men folk” pie… I agree with Wenchy that sometimes we bring it onto ourslves without even intending to. I remind him whenever it gets too much about adding “his’ value to our family. He pulls his socks up for 1.5 weeks and then falls back to his old habitual expectations. I’ll never be thin again but I wont be FAT either. I will be me and he will love me for me.

    May 21, 2008 at 11:50 am

    • Laurie-Ann

      Sounds to me that you’re confident and comfortable in your skin. Men admire that then a tiny waist size.

      August 3, 2015 at 11:02 am

  9. You forgot engaging conversationalist. Sometimes days go by without Neen and I sitting down to talk. Marriage is hard wark, sometimes. But worth it.

    May 21, 2008 at 4:11 pm

  10. Ash

    Luckily I’m getting out of a relationship where I never even got to be the whore in the bedroom but I had to do everything else. My new relationship involves lots of the bedroom and none of anything else. Maybe I finally got it right?

    May 21, 2008 at 6:36 pm

  11. Today was just the right day for me to read something like this.

    I always feel like I have to be everybody for everyone. Just last night he blamed me for him standing me up because I didn’t call him earlier, before he fell asleep knowing he had made plans with me. So now I’m expected to be his secretary too?

    Sheesh!

    May 21, 2008 at 7:02 pm

    • Laurie-Ann

      Sounds like you have a narcissist on your hands who doesn’t want to take responsibility and blame for his own actions.

      August 3, 2015 at 11:06 am

  12. I think I’ve got it all down except for the “thin” part. LOL Hubby knows how good he’s got it and knows better than to EVER complain about my weight. That would be very, very bad for him.

    May 22, 2008 at 4:32 am

  13. I understand what you are saying but I did get lucky. My husband and I try to keep chores and things equal. We both work and and try to make as much time as we can for ourselves and eachother. I could see how easy it could be to loes yourself though. I really love your posts. Sorry I have not been blogging lately! I have been taping shows which I am excited about because I was able to post them on my blog YAY!! If you get a chance to check it out, then let me know what you think. The more feedback I get the better I can make the segments Also, your stories are great and my whole idea behind this show is for other moms to share real stories like you do. Anyway, I’d love to hear from you.

    May 23, 2008 at 5:17 am

  14. i don’t think they know what they expect- and honestly, i think its how they’re raised. i’m hoping damien will be a little more understanding one day when he’s a grown up.

    May 26, 2008 at 7:20 am

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  16. Everyman

    Give me a f***ing break, you whiners. A man will walk through fire for his woman, and all he wants in return (really) is the bedroom part. Modern life has made the necessity of being “chef” obsolete, and being a lady? Pffft. Most of you gave that up in order to be on “equal ground” with men.

    I do all the “chefing” in my house, I pay for the food, i prepare it, serve it, and clean up afterward. I buy my wife flowers once a week, take her on vacations, out to restaurants, I buy her clothes and jewelry. I bring home 150k a year and she doesn’t work. I’m also, for the most part, the “Maid” since my wife is a terrible housekeeper. And this is a woman with a graduate degree who “chose” not to work-no, she’s not a stripper or a trophy wife.

    What do I get in return? Sex every other month.

    Ladies, this is exactly the formula for being single or divorced in your middle age.

    September 1, 2012 at 5:37 pm

    • Melany

       well what a difference men like you make

      Sent from Samsung Mobi

      September 1, 2012 at 6:16 pm

    • Brenda

      Where were you twenty years ago? I know I’ve learned my lesson the hard way.

      September 22, 2012 at 11:20 pm

    • Laurie-Ann

      I applaud you! I’d say you’re not being appreciated. Totally agree with you about some females whining and then they put the blame on the men and wonder why they have been cheated on or divorced.

      August 3, 2015 at 11:12 am

  17. wiggens

    My wife is the professional of PRUDE!
    I’ve been married a log time over 40 years and she ruined our sex life. No matter what I thought or said everything had to be her way. I should have taken the highway, my mistake. I didn’t realize before we were married she was a prude, I never did anything inapproperate with her before we were married. First she has always wore granny pajamas, I bought her sexy stuff but she returned them to the store, I bought toys and she threw them away.
    Sex had to be performed in the dark, most clothes were on her, not me, condom always, she told me to just get on with it, no touchy feely fun or after glow. When done get rid of the condom and I had to get dressed completely again and went to sleep.
    After a month or so of this shit, I asked her what the problem was, never got an answer.
    After a few years I just gave up and I told her so. There is nothing wrong running around the house naked or in our under ware when its hot outside or romping around in bed during the day. She said she was brought up not to do that sort of thing. Back then getting a divorce wasn’t looked upon to nicely. So I just decided to just coop myself up and stay away from her. Since then I haven’t slept with her nor do I talk much to her. So 40 years without sex has been horrible but I did live through it, after awhile it just didn’t matter any more.

    January 23, 2015 at 10:31 pm

    • Laurie-Ann

      It’s never to late….RUN! Find a woman who enjoys affection.

      August 3, 2015 at 10:45 am

  18. Laurie-Ann

    This is so typical of the females who want to bitch and complain, also making mountains out of mole hills. What’s so stressful about that saying?
    Chef in the kitchen – indicating cook dinner. Us females have to eat also. Therefore, make dinner. Highly doubt a husband is expecting a gourmet dish, he just wants a decent meal. Lady in the livingroom – ….and why are females offended by this? No one is expecting a female to be the perfect lady such as Jackie Kennedy but to have self respect and not curse and swear, yell and scream every chance they get. Yes, us modern day women can get vulgar in the words we choose to speak but use them wisely and in certain situations necessary. Whore in the bedroom – is this really a problem for girls? You marry a man because you love and crave him. In the bedroom, you want to satisfy your hunger for him by ravishing his body and making love to his soul. If not then why the hell did you marry the guy. Let him free to find someone else who won’t see it as a chore to be affectionate with their mate. I know I wouldn’t have to be asked twice to satisfy mine and my man’s needs.
    To add to stay in shape for a man’s sake and not to be judge, is that so? How about staying in shape for oneself. I don’t think anyone makes the decision to want to be overweight for themselves or others. You try to stay at a decent weight for your own well being. Honestly, men don’t want a thin woman. That’s just women saying men do to give them something else to find fault in a man. Men like girls with some meat and curves on them. Remember whore in the bedroom? They would want something to grab on to.

    August 3, 2015 at 10:42 am

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