Bully or standing his ground
I walked Jason to his class after school to get his school bag when one of the boys ran up to me. He accused Jason of grabbing him by the throat. Jason confirmed that he had done that. Not hiding from the truth. He did say though that the boy kept on hitting the ball out of his hands. I explained to him in no uncertain terms that it is not acceptable and best he not behave that way again. Violence does not make things right.
This afternoon during the cricket practise, one little boy kept on irritating everyone including me Jason. He would push him out of the way or run in front of him to get the ball, with every ball that went Jason’s direction. Eventually Jason couldn’t take it anymore and came to me to complain. This little guy ran behind Jason too tell me his side of the story too. Jason was still in the process of talking when he chirped up. This is when Jason had enough and pushed him hard enough to make him go back a step or six.
First instinct was to reprimand Jason. Again. Not acceptable behaviour. However tonight I’m lying here feeling bad about reprimanding him when he came to me. When he wanted me to stand up for him. Oooohhh I do so well on Mommy guilt.
The other thing though…he never went out to hurt these guys. It was never about being a bully or attacking them just because. Both these guys were irritating him. Looking for trouble. Wasn’t he just standing up for himself. Knowing him, he would have asked them to stop. I know he took a lot more crap from that guy at the cricket than I would have. So wasn’t he just standing up for himself?
Parenting is not for sissies.