Some of you have asked for an update on Kyla, or why I haven’t written much about her lately.
Kyla no longer comes to our house that often. It was getting to my boys and they are my very first priority. From the day we decided that she could come stay with us, I told the boys that if they felt it was disrupting their lives too much, we could discuss it again.
The situation did disrupt their lives. We had a family meeting (really can’t like the sounds of that) and we discussed what the problems were and how to fix it. For a while after that, we did try to change what we can and be accommodating but it wasn’t working. I had to face the fact.
I thankfully had a lightbulb moment and realized that I could always pay someone to take care of her at her mom’s flat!!! It’s been working perfectly. Kyla is happy. Her mom doesn’t have to worry about her. The boys get to have their home and their relationship with each other back.
Do I miss having her around. Of course. Do I miss the drama that comes with her. Not that much. Her mom was starting to take HUGE advantage of me. Phoning me to pick up Kyla from school (that is way on the other side of town) because she has visitors (which I only found out later). Or asking me to take her to town, or pick up Kyla while she went shopping. Kinda seeing me as her personal au pair. I don’t do that well.
So, that’s where we are at with Kyla. I feel this is the best outcome for all of us.
I didn’t have to turn my back and walk away. The boys didn’t have to give up their personal space.