Super Mom

So so selfish

*Warning*  If you smoke, be prepared to feel upset about what I’m going to write.

I can write this because this is my reality. Again.  I have 1st hand experience in this and you won’t be able to change my opinion.  I know that this doesn’t happen to other people.  This happens to real people.  So don’t try.


Smokers are selfish. 

Yes, you’ve heard this many times.   

Yes you say it’s your personal decision what you do and what right do we have to tell you what to do.

Of course it’s your decision.  It’s your decision to be selfish.  The fact that it’s your decision, doesn’t make it right.

We all know that smoking causes cancer.  Right?

You know that if you smoke, the people around you can get cancer. 

Babies exposed to second-hand smoke are two times more likely to die of SIDS. Second-hand smoke is associated with 7,500 to 15,000 hospitalizations of infants and toddlers annually, leads to 136 to 212 deaths in children 18 months of age or younger, and contributes to 8,000 to 26,000 new cases of asthma in children each year.

Not selfish?  What is it then.  A gift to those you love?  “Here…let me give you asthma.  Cancer….

So yes, that’s not selfish.  That’s your choice.

You know that you can get lung cancer from it right?  Throat cancer.

Cigarette smoking kills more Americans than AIDS, alcohol, car accidents, homicides, suicides, illegal drugs and fires combined

Yes, your grandmother who smoked her entire life didn’t die of cancer.  I’m really truly happy for her. 

    • Smoking causes many other types of cancer, including cancers of the throat, mouth, nasal cavity, oesophagus, stomach, pancreas, kidney, bladder, and cervix, and acute myeloid leukaemia.
    • People who smoke are up to six times more likely to suffer a heart attack than non-smokers, and the risk increases with the number of cigarettes smoked. Smoking also causes most cases of chronic lung disease

But, this is your choice.  You know that you have a risk of dying and you are willing to take that risk.  So if you ignore the fact that you harm those around you, yes …. this is your choice.

Do you ever think what it would do to your family and friends if you did get cancer?  If they had to watch you die from cancer.  If they were left without a Dad, a husband, a son or daughter?

Yes it’s your choice.

20 responses

  1. Mom

    I so agree with everything you said Melany. I wish they would ban smoking world wide. They would never legalize poison to be used at random in houses to see if you die or not from it ? What is the difference.

    February 4, 2011 at 10:53 am

  2. I breastfed my children to give them the best start in life. My daughter started smoking at the age of 13 and is still, 10 years later, trying to give up. My son started smoking at about the age of 16 while he was living with his dad. So thats two out of three kids smoking. I am a non-smoker who has never even tried it. I think it is disgusting and horrible and I cant even persuade myself to try it once. Their father is a smoker who learnt how to smoke when he was in the army so there’s the example. Apart from that a smoker who otherwise might not litter thinks nothing of throwing a cigarette butt down anywhere. They dont even realise what they are doing. And its that act of carelessness and selfishness that starts so many fires. Definitely preaching to the converted in my case.

    February 4, 2011 at 11:23 am

    • Wow smoking at 13! That’s so young 😦

      February 5, 2011 at 7:04 am

  3. Agreed! Disgusting selfish habit. I have never understood people, who are smokers, who have kids, and can’t be bothered to try to stop smoking. I smoked socially for a few years. But as soon as I was married and we started trying for kids, I stopped. Then I had my kids and the thought of ever having smoked, or of ever smoking again, was ludicrous. Suddenly I could see it for what it was. A filthy, disgusting smelly habit. There are NO excuses that will ever be good enough to me, from someone who smokes around their kids. I don’t care how many stories of “so and so, smoked and didn’t have cancer” they try and tell you. I think a little visit to the oncology ward at the local hospital to see someone dying from lung cancer might be in order. It’s apparently one of the worst ways to die. No.Thanks.

    February 4, 2011 at 11:33 am

    • It is a horrible way to die. Unfortunately I’ve had someone close to me die from it. It’s terrible

      February 4, 2011 at 12:39 pm

    • Good for you. For realizing the harm that you could have caused your children.

      My mom’s sister died of lung cancer. I know all about it. Now again someone in my family has to fight it

      February 5, 2011 at 7:04 am

  4. Natalie Archer

    I really detest smoking……. It is a horrible habit, which as you say is harmful not only to you but all those around you. I wish that cigarettes could be banned all together but that is just how I feel.

    February 4, 2011 at 11:47 am

    • Jip me too. Just ban them.

      February 5, 2011 at 7:02 am

  5. You get my vote! 😀

    February 4, 2011 at 1:41 pm

  6. I have this fight with David every time he lights up – which isnt often any more – mainly when he is drinking!

    The thought of watching him die from something HE did makes me sad 😦

    He has cut down dramatically though!!

    February 4, 2011 at 5:59 pm

    • At least he has cut down. Tommie smokes too. I really hope that now, this time will be his wake-up call and that he will stop

      February 5, 2011 at 7:01 am

  7. Tiffany Ambriz

    I agree Melany. I’ll go a bit further and say that women who smoke while pregnant should be charged with child abuse. My dad has taken up smoking (again) and now it is cigars. My children beg him to stop, and have cried more than once over the thought that grandpa is killing himself with those things. Jack (8) has actually asked me if his grandpa really loves him – because if he really loved him, he’d stop smoking so he could live longer and have more time with him. It is very sad.

    February 4, 2011 at 6:20 pm

    • I totally agree about the child abuse!
      Then how sad for your kids. Realising thay he could die from it. So sad

      February 5, 2011 at 6:58 am

  8. My dad never smoked a day in his life. He has COPD. His parents smoked. The Dr. says that is why he has it.

    My grandfather died from emphysema. It was awful. My mom’s brother has mouth cancer right now and it looks like it will kill him. Sad.

    February 4, 2011 at 6:27 pm

    • That is so sad 😦 My mom’s sister died from lung cancer. Also never smoked a day in her life. Her husband did though.

      Now it has struck our family again.

      February 5, 2011 at 6:57 am

  9. Jen

    well written and i agree

    February 4, 2011 at 8:45 pm

  10. Ag I agree 100% – but my hubby smokes, although never in the house or near me and the kids. He did stop for 3 years but started again in the first week of the twins’ life. He has promised me that he will stop again…

    February 4, 2011 at 10:05 pm

    • My husband smokes too. Also not in the house/car/restaurants or near us. But he smokes and what if HE gets cancer and leaves us to cope alone. He knows how I feel and I’m hoping with what is going on now, he’ll stop

      February 5, 2011 at 6:55 am

  11. Kerry

    I agree with you 100% biggest regret of my life to have smoked for so many years. I as you know suffer from a terminal lung disease of which the powers that be tell me my condition was not caused through cigarette smoke. I beg to differ and feel for sure it never helped my situation, I too considered myself a careful smoker, always walked away from people, restaurants or smoked in cars I will admit when smoking was considered fashionable and cars never had seat belts I did smoke in my car with my kids in tow, I am totally ashamed of that last statement. Cigarette advertising made it cool to smoke when and wherever you were. The old saying can’t see the forest for the trees applies big time just like the lack of trees and the forest.. hindsight is a powerful thing, I wish I knew..
    I love you Melany xxx

    February 4, 2018 at 12:26 pm

    • At least you stopped Aunt Kez. You realized it’s not such a smart decision. Giving up can’t be easy. I agree that smoking was made to look cool back in the day. I love you too xxx

      February 4, 2018 at 12:39 pm

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