That. That is why.
However there is so much more. I can’t possibly put all of it in words and I can’t possibly remember all of the positives but let me try.
- Time. He gets to spend more time on a subject if he needs to. There is no rush to get to the next class or worrying that the rest of the class has to wait for him.
- Time again. Class doesn’t have to be 25 minutes. If he is enjoying a specific topic, then we spend more time on it. Learn more about it. We don’t stop at what the book says. We learn more. Google. Youtube (our best friend)
- Time again. If he is tired or battling to concentrate, I just skip the lesson and do it on another day.
- Our relationship. We have always had a close relationship. (as I do with all my children) however he is now more willing to open up to me. He is a happy chappy. That is not always a good thing, since under that happy smile there is also anxiety, sadness, worry, stress. Only recently he has started sharing the more negative side of things with me.
- Bullies. We don’t have bullies in our school ☺ (One of the reasons I wish I could homeschool all my children – bullies have no idea how much they hurt someone. By the time they are grown up and realize it, it’s too late for the person who was bullied)
- His friends aren’t just 11 years old. One of his closest swimming friends is 14. It’s not limited by grade.
- Stress. He has so little of it now.
- Confidence. He is another child. Where he used to almost battle to talk to other people or hide behind me, he will now have conversations as though they are long lost friends.
The list is endless actually. He is happy. He is doing well. As an example, he got 82% for history. He did not learn for it. We did no revision. It was from what he learned when we worked through his book (google and youtube as well) No stress. Just from the time we spend on the subject, to make sure he understands and enjoy it. It’s not a punishment. It’s fun. He wants to learn more because we make it fun. We live the history. We don’t read the history.
Anyway, off subject again.
He is happy.
To anyone else, this is a photo of a child writing a story.
To me it is so, so much more. It’s my
dyslexic son, that uses spaces between his words. That’s writing in paragraphs. My son who put thought into the story. He took the time to think of a good introduction and ending.
He wasn’t worried about the spelling or how quickly he had to finish. There is no rush when you are a home schooled and spelling is helped by the cellphone.
By removing those two factors, he could focus on what is truly important when writing a short story.
I don’t know if we are getting it 100% right all the time. I don’t.
I look at that though and it seems like we are getting something right!
The decision was not made within a day, not within a week or a month. I have been thinking of homeschooling Zander since the beginning of the year. If I’m honest I have probably considered it subconsciously since Grade 1.
That’s when I realized letters don’t make any sense to him. At all. He could not differentiate between any of the letters. It wasn’t just “b and p” or “d and b”. They just didn’t make any sense. I knew that he was dyslexic, I just didn’t have the final diagnosis.
If I knew then what I know now, I would have home-schooled him from Grade 1.
The final decision was only made on Sunday. Big rush to get books and such but we have started on what I know he battles with. That’s the joy of it all. I can work on what HE battles with.
I can do this. I worked full-time and studied via Unisa after school. I got my degree in the same amount of time as I would have, had gone to university full time. I know that I can make time to make things work. I have always done that.
I know that I’m doing what Zander needs. I have to help him. He has changed so much in the course of the year. Emotionally he is not the same child. The pace is just too fast. He is not keeping up and the teacher (understandably) get upset. They can’t keep the class behind for one child.
He has been called “stupid”. Told to go on medication because he is too slow. I can’t do that to him. The school has gone above and beyond to accomodate with exams but the problem lies with class work.
If you look at most of his school marks, you would think I’m a tiny bit crazy. I would understand that. He gets distinctions! However if you look at the languages you will realize I have no choice.
So wish us luck.